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Thank you all for your reassuring and supportive comments on my last post. I'm still exhausted but I feel much better after reading about your experiences. Last night was pretty bad. She slept until 2am but then up every hour or so after that. She's not unsettled. She just wants a quick cuddle and a feed and then she goes back to sleep without any fuss. But then she's at it again only an hour later. She's been feeding  A LOT. And I'm wondering if she's gearing up for solids..? When she watches me eat she's very intrigued and makes chewing motions and sucks on her bottom lip. Are these signs?  I wanted to wait until 6 months (at least) but I'm feeling like I can't satisfy her at the moment. A part of me is a bit scared about introducing solids (especially on the early side) because I'm afraid she'll want to wean. And I would just be devastated if that happened. I'd happily get up 895 times a night and feed her to keep her on the boob. Paddy says I'm being silly because she's as obsessed with breastfeeding as I am, and he can't imagine her ever weaning! But still, I worry.

If I was to introduce solids, I'm thinking 5 months is the earliest I would do it.  Do you think that's too early? I'd love to hear about your experiences.

Anyway... I know that caffeinating (is that even a word?) myself into another dimension probably isn't the best way to handle this sleep situation, especially when I'm breastfeeding. But at the moment this beautiful smooth creamy coffee from Coffee Alchemy is my saviour. A distant lover. My old favourite from my old stomping ground - Marrickville, Sydney. My Sister in Law was good enough to bring some up for me on her visit. And I'm only having one a day (okay, sometimes two) Max. Even so, the after effects are quite concerning. There's no wonder the poor baby can't sleep - she's having nightmares about her lunatic goggly-eyed mother.

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  1. ahahhh i so know how you feel on the coffee front, it's a pretty awesome ritual if you ask me!

    how old is your little lady now? My Olive is 4 months, born on australia day. As for solids, i have no real advice. We started our son on solids at about 5 and a half months, he was a bonny boy and loved it. Not sure what we'll do this time round... I'll be asking you in a month or so!

    xo em

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  2. cute photo!!

    i felt the same way about breastfeeding. i never wanted to give up. there's so much letting go in mothering that i was (and still am) so unprepared for.

    why hasn't someone invented coffee for mummas. a shortacting variety?

    x

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  3. Hello :),

    I started both of mine on solids at 5 months and they were more than ready. Started with baby rice then blended veg, fruit etc, etc, the norm really. They were both keen from the get go and I have always encouraged them to eat until full rather than finish the serving even then. My little girl self weaned at 1 year and we were both happy with that. I remember it very fondly though and loved the nurturing of my babies. I didn't find that she wanted to stop feeding when having other sustenance. Hope that helps a little. Good luck whatever you decide. :)

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  4. That sounds rough! Thank god for coffee (and thanks for the recommendation, i've never been there). x

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  5. Hey Em, that's so funny - Australia Day is my birthday too. it's the best day to have a birthday - my ritual is a pool, a BBQ and triple J hottest 100 countdown! ...Eulalie was born exactly a week before - the 19th.

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  6. Maha! Great goggle-eyed shot, lovely lady. Am sure that ol' trick brought on a fit of giggles.

    Can't comment on the solids debate yet but will be happy to listen to the advice you're handed down and store it away for a little bit :)
    x

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  7. I think the lunatic goggle eyed Mum looks very gorgeous! I really think the waking up is most likely a behavioural thing about where she is in her developmental stage and starting her on solids won't change it (and I'm sure she definitely won't wean either!). We waited til 6 months with Olive, and mostly followed baby lead weaning - they need to have some fine motor skills, basically they just feed themselves. It seems to make exceptional eaters. Kellie xx

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  8. We started Elke at 5 months. She would watch us intensely at mealtimes and just seemed really interested in eating. Funny thing is she never really like pureed food. She preferred lumps in her meal! And now she's a pretty good eater and at 18 months still shows no signs of wanting to wean. Whereas, my son was never really interested in food...still isn't at 6!

    You're her mama and you know best xxx

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  9. Ultimately you will do what feels right for you but we waited till 9 months due to family allergies etc. WHO recommends until 6 months and then with appropriate foods till 2 and beyond if you wish. Babies only have the stomach size of their fist and breastmilk being natural is processed much more quickly so they will feed quite frequently (or all the time!) The Australian Breastfeeding Association have an excellent helpline if you have any concerns or just want to here a friendly voice of someone who has been there before. 1800mum2mum. They also have an excellent range of booklets available including one for introducing solids which you may find helpful :)

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  10. Hi Claire, thanks for your comments on my blog. Seems we are having parallel lives somewhat (except that I'm freezing my arse off down in Melbourne). My bubs is having similar sleeping patterns and ends up spending much of the night in bed with us. He's looking very interested in food too. I figure it must just be a stage and am looking forward to more sleep soon... Sending sleepy vibes up north!

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  11. Thanks to everyone for the suggestions. I think I will give her a taste of a little something at 5 months. After all, it really is just about tasting in the early stages. And after seeing her feed ferociously tonight before bed, I can't imagine she'll be letting go of those boobies in a hurry... interesting to hear that Elke only likes a lumpy texture - something I wouldn't have really considered...

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  12. poor you. i remember telling kerry from the seventy tree about my 'knickers in a bag' phase, when one night, after fantasising about it for a while, i put a pair of knickers and socks in a bag and very nearly left the house at about 3am! i just couldn't take anymore. felt like i was going mad. people were saying it'll get better and all i wanted to know was WHEN?! WHEN?! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, WHEN?! and this was with my second! i knew it would get better but when you're in it, you can't see the wood for the trees.
    it might be a growth spurt, teething, just wanting cuddles, any or all of the above. i started solids at 5 - 5 1/2 months with both. weaning my first was desperately sad. i cried a lot. but it wasn't doing either of us any good anymore. i was less emotional with the second and stopped breast feeding earlier. i knew i had another bad sleeper on my hands and i didn't want to exacerbate it by being tempted to breast feed all the time to get him back to sleep. it's such a personal thing, follow your instincts. x

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  13. I am a new visitor, here, and I hesitate to jump right in and make suggestions... but....I will say-I remember getting up several times in the night to nurse my lil' Hayes... even after he was old enough to make it through the night... and I do believe this was even after we began feeding solids... (and I can attest, by my experience, to the notion that an intro to solids does not create a disinterest in the breast) babies' development can be so mysterious... and can surely make a Mother feel as though she'll go mad... but it seems that you are doing a fabulous job--and sometimes we just need to tell ourselves just that- *looking at self in the mirror* "You are doing a fabulous job; full steam ahead."

    I adore your blog; consider me following.
    Best Wishes and I hope you can catch some well deserved Zzzzzzs.

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  14. Oh Francesca I laughed so hard at your knickers in a bag story! Except my bag might also contain a passport!

    Kidding aside, I'm feeling much better. And I'm getting lots of "told you so's" from paddy regarding the whole weaning fear. Seems I have very little to worry about... xx

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  15. Morning Claire,

    I breastfed Che for two years and he ended up co-sleeping with us and feeding all through the night (most nights)...even when he was eating solids. I understand that every bub is different but from my reading and understanding, a baby's digestive system isn't ready for solids till 6 months. I know the local nurses around here are now encouraging solids at 4 months to prevent the onset of allergies (not sure of the reasoning behind this) but I believe a baby should be able to sit by themselves to eat solids as it ultimately helps them digest their food. Digestive issues usually arise with solids anyway - you'll notice E will get a bit constipated and may not poo for days and days (10 days is normal!)

    In the end, you are her mother and I would just encourage you to follow your instinct. All of us here can give you advice but ultimately she is yours and you will make the right decision. And don't be afraid of her weaning herself - I very much doubt that rice cereal or mashed banana will ever replace the sweetness of breastmilk x

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  16. I'm new at all of this so I can't offer any advise but i'm definitely taking notes. Can I just say how super adorable you are and what a wonderful mother you are too!
    Natasha xo

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  17. It's been a long time since I've had to do this so sadly I've forgotten but it sounds like you've been given some wonderful advice. I hope the sleeping gets better, the one thing I know is little ones go through waves of different fazes and it's just rolling with them that can sometimes be tricky. You're a lovely Mum and will choose the right thing for you and your little one. Love the photo too, very cute. xo

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  18. Hi Claire,
    My experience with my three (!) girls was that solids didn't affect breastfeeding at all, but as soon as any hint of milk in another form hit the scene, the breastfeeding went downhill. I had to begin bottles with my first because of returning to work, and once she had a feel for it, she started to turn her nose up at the hard work required with the boob. With my twins, due to exhaustion and, well, twins, I began one on a single bottle of formula at about 8 months. She steadily weaned herself from there. Her twin sister was kept on the boob because of suspected dairy intolerance and would happily have breastfed into eternity, I think. So I say don't fear the solids, just keep the bottles away! And have fun with the ridiculously messy phase ahead of you!

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  19. maybe just a growth spirt...i think she will soon slow down. quinn was like that pretty much till i stopped breast feeding him at two. he still is not much of a sleeper. i think it is a mix of growing and just part of who she is. x.

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  20. Ahh it can be so hard when they are waking so much at night, but i can assure you it won't last forever. Could just be a growth spurt? So much better to get up and give her the comfort of a quick feed..
    Introducing solids can be so confusing, there are so many different opinions out there!
    I breastfeed both my little ones until they weaned themselves {each at around 12 months and i was so sad when they did, but i was happy that it had been there choice} I decided to do the 'baby led' method of introducing solids which worked really well when combined with breastfeeding {especially if you want to keep that going for as long as you can.} I feel quiet passionate about the method and am convinced it is the reason i have two of the best little eaters! There are a few good books out there and more people are taking that approach. If you want any information about it let me know.
    Hope the sleeping has improved for you. x
    {sorry for rambling on a bit!}

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