11.6.12

Life as a pair.


In the days leading up to Paddy's departure, I was a little anxious and a lot unpleasant. I guess it was just my way of dealing with the stress of it all...

...but, so far, life as a pair is going much more smoothly than I had anticipated. We're not exactly thriving, but we're certainly surviving. I miss Paddy like sleep* (and I'm sure I don't need to tell you - that's A LOT), but somehow, Lalie and I have managed to ease ourselves into an alternate rhythm. Bedtime comes early, meal times are simple and the the clean up is swift.  I've been thinking a lot about the advice Rachel left in the comments on this post and striving to keep my energy expenditure to a minimum. I certainly haven't set any unrealistic goals for myself... or even any realistic ones for that matter! It's  kinda nice not worrying about that big list of stuff-to-be-done that so often clouds my head.

One thing I'd love to achieve is a more regular appearance in this space. I suddenly have my blogging enthusiasm back, but there just aren't enough Lalie-free minutes in the day. The only time she allows me to sit at the computer desk is to call Daddy - although she can't quite seem to work out this whole Skype malarkey. Between sweet smiles and blowing kisses there's moments of complete perplexity at the image of her pixelated father who somehow managed to get inside the computer and won't come out. I'm so grateful for modern technology, though - after only a week Paddy remarks at how her hair has grown and how chatty she's becoming. It just goes to show how much they're changing on a day-to-day basis at this precious age. It's comforting to know Paddy is still getting to experience these changes on some level.

P.S - These images are largely unrelated, but I can never resist a good play on words. How good are the pears this time of year? And cheap!

*I couldn't have said it better myself, Tim Rogers.

25 comments :

  1. Look at you go, you amazing creature. No surprises though!

    xo em

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  2. my heart aches for you. I'm a bit the same when my hubs goes away which luckily is not very often, but I miss him badly. The good thing is that it shows the depth of love that you feel for Paddy, same at this end. hugs on the hardest of days. Jane x

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  3. What's with that pre-departure unpleasantness? I get that too.

    Lalie-bug looks like such a character here.

    ... and i'm wishing i'd gone for a darker grey grout on my tiles.

    rachel x

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  4. i have learnt that the anticipation of the event is often much worse than the event itself. that's how i get through worrying times.
    looks like you girls are having ball. x

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  5. Gorgeous photos, Claire. Been thinking of you, wondering how you two are holding up... seems like you're managing just fine, as difficult as it no doubt is. And yep, thank god for technology! x

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  6. You surely must be doing okay - look at that cheeky smile!!! Gorgeous photos and lovely post. x

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  7. How have I not found your blog before? I am off to make a cup of tea and read. It is beautiful. What gorgeous pictures. x

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  8. I hope the time flies quickly for you. Such gorgeous photos!

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  9. It is wonderful to have modern technology to make them being away just that little bit easier to cope with. Lalie looks like she's having a great time hanging out with her Mum. I look forward to seeing you more around your beautiful space. xx

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  10. I haven't stopped by here in a while ... In these pictures your little one looks like the girl she's becoming, not a baby.. and I had to laugh, your description of Lalie + skype sounds uncannily similar to my grandparents + skype .. :-)

    lovely to have you back! xo

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  11. I love every bit of this post claire! it's so hard to have hubby away, everything is off kilter and the days are so very long without that spare set of hands to help with the night time clean up and restoration of calm before a new day begins.. I laughed at how Lalie is trying to understand how dad is stuck in the computer :) I think Eliot is as equally perplexed when we speak to my parents on skype. sounds as though you have both eased into this new little rhythm well, I hope it continues for you both x (and beautiful photos!)

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  12. I love your blog, your beautiful writing and stunning pictures! Lalie looks like a happy little bee! x

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  13. Oh, she is such a doll! Hope things continue on smoothly for you both. And I do love a play on words too! :)

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  14. Lovely to hear things are going well, been thinking of you xx

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  15. I like your play on words!

    Life as a duo can be so rewarding, I'm sure. Responsibility weighs heavy, but so do all the hugs that are only for you. Make the most of this special time together. I know you will.

    x

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  16. I'm glad your surviving, I know I'd miss my D so much if we had to be parted. I like the way you describe that loss (like sleep). Lalie certainly looks full of fun, laughter and happiness though. I hope she allows you a little more blogging time, I'm certainly enjoying you being back.

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  17. The Mister has to go away for work fairly regularly and I totally get what you mean- dreading it is always worse than actually doing it! Missing his company is the hardest part, as far as the daily workload goes it actually kinda feels like less to do... Snap! on the earlier bedtime, easy dinners and one less person to clean up after :) I think it's definitely hardest on the absent person, especially with the littlies changing so much. But there is always the reunion to look forward to and it is ever so true absence makes the heart grow even fonder.
    I really hope that the next few weeks go fast and smooth for you and Lalie and you have your Sweetherat back by you side before you know it. xx

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  18. The Mister has to go away for work fairly regularly and I totally get what you mean- dreading it is always worse than actually doing it! Missing his company is the hardest part, as far as the daily workload goes it actually kinda feels like less to do... Snap! on the earlier bedtime, easy dinners and one less person to clean up after :) I think it's definitely hardest on the absent person, especially with the littlies changing so much. But there is always the reunion to look forward to and it is ever so true absence makes the heart grow even fonder.
    I really hope that the next few weeks go fast and smooth for you and Lalie and you have your Sweetherat back by you side before you know it. xx

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  19. *omg whoops meant Sweetheart not Sweet the Rat..!! arghh time for bed I think, sorry

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  20. Oh beautiful Lalie, she is divine. I really love your play on words in this post, clever.
    Sounds like you're coping in the best possible way, each day will get a little easier and you'll be amazed by your own strength and ability. Though it's never easy solo parenting, there are some wonderful positives to it also... of which it seems you are already finding. Keep going Claire xo

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  21. beautiful pictures and lovely post, i'm so excited to see you back more often!

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  22. Glad to hear you've been doing okay, I've been thinking of you. Hope the rest of the time flies.

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  23. She's growing up fast! And so is her hair, oh my : ]

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  24. I can relate! Although I do not have a child to care for (yet).. My spouse and I often go anywhere from 3 to 8 weeks apart due to his job, and it can be daunting!

    Just ride the waves :)

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  25. I'm glad you've found your blogging enthusiasm again! Hope the rest of this time goes well. Now, off you go and poach those pears in a light sugar syrup with sliced lemons and a vanilla bean. Your girl is gorgeous x

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