2.7.14

slowly creeping back



I went for weeks without missing this space. But now, suddenly, I feel I need to be here again in some capacity. I'm not sure how regularly I'll be posting, but I'm wanting to connect and share again. I also miss the documentation of the girls' growing up (suffering serious mother-guilt over the lack of photographs of our sweet second child!)

There's a lot of uncertainty in our life at the moment. Work for Paddy in town is drying up and there's a very real probability that he'll either have to work away for very long periods of time, or that we'll all move away together as a family for the next couple of years. I've got my fingers and toes crossed for the latter. Despite the overwhelming anxiety that grips me at the thought of uprooting and leaving the comforts of these four walls and our friends and family here, I am trying to embrace change and leap faithfully toward this new path. As long as the four of us are together, we'll be home.

Still, this is all easier said than done. I feel so completely stressed and overwhelmed. If anyone has been through a similar situation, I'd love to hear about your experience. Also, if I have any readers from (or familiar with) Darwin, NT or Gladstone, QLD, I'd love to hear what you have to say about the liveability of these towns. Thank you!

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  1. I've never commented before but I always love any opportunity to tell someone that Darwin is a very beautiful town. "Normal" things are hard: bad public transport, supermarkets have less choice and less fresh fruit and veg, fewer shops, sometimes extreme weather. The sea is beautiful but there are too many scary creatures to swim in it! But the seasons are spectacular, the markets are stunningly beautiful, it's three hours to Asia. You could easily make a beautiful life there! X

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    1. Thanks for taking a moment to share this info, Jessica.. really appreciate it :) x

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  2. Always so happy to see a new post from you Claire. I'm holding on by a thread to my blog right now. Who has time with two small children (let alone more!) Little M is looking more like herself, rather than such a little Lalie. And those dungarees are so adorable. Beautiful colours. I hope whichever path you follow you find great happiness. Like you say, as long as the four of you are together, you're home. Lots of love to you xx

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    1. Thanks Nell :) Still get quite a few people say the girls are really similar, but to be honest, I can't really see it at all now! They're each their own person :)

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  3. Oh, look at your sweet girl...she's darling! I will be keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers and hope everything works out well with the potential move :)

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  4. Hello! So good to hear from you. I've only experienced these two towns as a visitor. I loved Darwin and I think to live there for a few years would be a pretty great experience. So many places to explore right on its doorstep too.

    rachel xo

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    1. Yep, you're right - I think it could be quite an adventure to the Top End!

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  5. I understand the stress and anxiety that comes with moving away from family and friends and a town you know and love. Last March my husbands work took us about six hours from home, to live in a small country town in central west NSW. Whilst we have made the most of our love and embraced country living, I couldn't do it forever. We will return home one day, in another year or so hopefully. I found making new friends exciting and the boys adapted so well to life out here. The community is wonderful and is something that is missing back on the coast where we are from. As you say, home is where you all are together xx

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    1. Thanks for sharing, katrina :) Glad to hear the children adapted well. My main worry is taking the girls away from their cousins here - thank goodness for Skype and facetime! x

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  6. Just lovely to see you today, Claire. I've visited all three of these towns (note 'visited', not lived!) and I'd move to Darwin in a heartbeat. x

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  7. Both towns, not three! I think I was hoping you'd add Sydney to that list!! x

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    1. Oh I wish I could add Sydney to that list... perhaps that can be the next stop! x

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  8. I agree that the better option is the latter, you're right that it doesn't matter where you are, if you're together you'll find a way, if you're apart it will be all the harder. We have moved around this wide brown land a lot in the last five years, but only just become parents, and as luck would have it are back 'home' where our families are for this chapter. We're not sure if we'll be here for a long time or if we'll be off again sometime in the future, the uncertainty eats at me sometimes. Darwin is a great city though! We have always loved our time there, perhaps get in contact with Danielle from Hello Owl blog if Darwin is a serious contender? I'm sure she'd be helpful.

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    1. Thank you so much Emma... I got in touch with Danielle straight away and she's been a huge help already :) xxx

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  9. So excited for you. Change is scary but it can be wonderful and I am sure it will be wonderful for you all. These pictures are lovely, can't believe how much Marguerite is growing - that first year just flies by doesn't it. She's beautiful, and those dungarees are divine! xxx

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    1. Thanks Polly! Marguerite is already 10 months and I just.cannot.believe.it! xx

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  10. Beautiful photos, Claire.
    Thinking of you during this time of anxiety and uncertainty...
    Ronnie xo

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  11. I've enjoyed reading your blog and seeing your lovely photos for awhile now. I just wanted to say that we moved and raised our young family overseas for many years. Recently we have returned to the US, but we live across the country from family, and will likely move a number of times around the country and abroad for the next ten years with our kids (it's the nature of my husband's job). While we miss many things about living near family, there is a beauty to living somewhere new. It generally brings you very close as a family, broadens your definition of who you are, and offers so many exciting possibilities. My children have really thrived living in and learning from new places, and I love getting the chance to see how truly adaptable they are. It's not all roses and sunshine - it's hard work and tests you. But that's part of the growth. I've found for me that the biggest part of the stress is not actually the reality of moving, but that time when I feared it, if that makes sense. The actual reality, while a lot of work, is pretty darn cool and exciting. Sending you good luck and good thoughts. <3

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    1. Sarah, you wise, wise woman. Thank you for sharing... I just loved this comment. I once read somewhere that "the anticipation of the event is much worse than the event itself" and I think this is exactly what you've described here. xxx

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  12. Hi, Claire! I missed your words and photos of your lovely daughters. I´m really happy that you´re back!

    I know very weel what you're feeling. I'm in a similar situation. My husband´s work keep him moving around the world, so, we are not in the same country or continent more than a couple of years. Right now, we are in Brazil, in the next year... i really don´t know.
    It´s difficult, it seems that we are never home, but, as you said, what matters is that the four of you stay together.
    Keep positive! You´re not alone!
    xx

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  13. You're doing amazing <3
    P.s, cutest little bub.

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  14. at age 46, my husband & i made the decision to move 12 hours from our home state. we both grew up there, graduated high school & college in that state. my family has lived in this state for over 100 years. we left family, friends--college friends, friends who we had raised our children with & are like our kids' second moms & dads. i was devestated.

    but, it has been not just a good thing, but a great thing. change can be invigorating & just plain fun. we love our new community. our girls have thrived in this place. the oldest graduated college here and is starting law school here in a couple of months. the youngest went from a very priviledged & expensive private school to large public schools. best thing that could have ever happend to her. made her stretch her self & her social circle and become involved/successful in things she never would have considered back in our home town. we miss our home state, family & friends but, are in constant awe of how such a scarey move has become such a wonderful thing.

    you will figure it all out & will not only adapt, but will grow as a family and as individuals.

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    1. Nanne, thank you so much! This makes me feel much less anxious and more optimistic! xxx

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  15. Hi Claire, this is my first time commenting on your beautiful blog. My husband lost his job in January and there was a definite lack of work locally to fill the gap. We decided in March to make a pre-planned trip to Brisbane a permanent stay. Uprooting our family from Tasmania wasn't easy. We left behind friends, family, my boys much loved school and a region so beautiful that we still miss it everyday. Fortunately we have family in Brisbane as well and although it's been a bumpy road, four months later that road is beginning too smooth out well. My children have settled into school life, my husband has found work and next on the agenda is to find our own place to call home. It's not an easy thing to do and there will be days you wish you could turn back but just keep reminding yourselves that this is where your family needs to be right now and who knows what the future holds. Good luck with everything :)

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    1. Oh, Emma... thank you so much for sharing your experience. It's helped immensely xxx

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  16. Hi there, we live in Darwin and absolutely love it. The weather is a bit to get used to, but as a small family (mine are 2 1/2 and 6 months old), the pace of life and relaxed atmosphere simply doesn't get any better than here. People are generally very open to new friendships, and we have found that our friends very quickly became like family (probably because many Darwinians are also living far from their families!).
    I would be happy to tell you more, just send me an email.
    Wishing you all the best as your family continues to ponder the future and make big decisions.
    -Natalie

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    1. This is so reassuring, thank you so much Natalie! I will be sure to get in touch if we find out we're Darwin-bound! xx

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  17. Hello Claire, for what it's worth, since our first child was born five years ago, we've lived in Wollongong, Stuttgart (Germany), Leipzig (Germany), Brisbane and Hobart. I've felt that heart-wrenching ache whenever twe've had to leave and grieved pitifully every time. The most recent move (Brisbane to Hobart a few months back) was made so that we could finally settle down and hopefully prevent the need for any more drastic moves across the country. I have to say though, each big move has brought us closer together as a family, and given us a strong sense of adventure! We've got such fond memories of the tough times when we felt loneliest, relying on each other and discovering new things. Moving from Brisbane to Hobart has been hard because I loved Brisbane. The best climate in all the world! And fantastic markets, a beautiful city with so much to do. I highly recommend it!

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  18. AnonymousJuly 16, 2014

    Dear Claire, I have never commented but I am an avid follower of your blog and your work and think you are such an amazing mother and such a talented photographer! I am from Perth but my sister in law is an Army wife and has been uprooted multiple times, each time it makes their family unit stronger, they get to see more of Australia whilst being paid for it, and they thrive on getting out and exploring their new digs as a way to deal with their angst at moving and living in unknown cities. I hope it is the latter for your sake as well x
    ps please keep posting :)

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  19. I love the colour set of those 3 photos and particularly I love the perspective on the top photo. Regards Kathy A, Brisbane

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  20. I remember that feeling of uncertainty and change just before we decided to stay down here on the coast. It was supposed to be a temporary 2 year thing, then when it was time to go back to Melbourne it just didn't feel right. It was such a huge decision to stay, without family close by, uncertainty of work prospects and security. Tough decisions, but it turns out we made the right one. Also, I felt having a pre-schooler was such a great advantage, it just opens up a whole new community and circle of friends to be a part of which makes settling in so much easier. My family lived in gladstone for a couple of years when I was a kid, so much would have changed I'm not much help to you there, but how exciting to have these possibilities open to you..exciting times of change claire x

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  21. Well, if you do have a chance to look into things over here, I work in Sydney and there seems to be quite a fair amount of opportunity to work. Don't lose track of the important things though, especially when your kids are young.. Take the time and smell the roses, with your family. The time you have with them when they're this small is so limited so enjoy it while it lasts!

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  22. Hey there! I would love to live in Darwin, I never did though. The sea is not for swimming up there but there are beautiful freshwater lagoons to go and swim! (Hoooopefully crocodile-free :)) ) also I don't know exactly where you are right now but there arent many seriously dangerous animals like spiders or snakes in Darwin. You have kiddos so thats certainly a great point :)

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  23. Hi Claire, for what its value, since our first kid was conceived five years prior, we've existed in Wollongong, Stuttgart (Germany), Leipzig (Germany), Brisbane and Hobart. I've felt that heart-tweaking throb at whatever point twe've needed to leave and lamented miserably assuredly. The latest move (Brisbane to Hobart a couple of months back) was made with the goal that we could at long last settle down and assuredly keep the requirement for any more intense moves the nation over. I need to say however, every huge move has united us as a family, and provided for us a solid feeling of escapade! We've got such affectionate memories of the extreme times when we felt loneliest, depending on one another and finding new things. Moving from Brisbane to Hobart has been hard on the grounds that I adored Brisbane. The best atmosphere in all the world! What's more phenomenal markets, a delightful city with such a great amount to do. I exceptionally prescribe it!

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Thank you so much for taking the time to comment - it really means so much. I will try to reply where I can! xx